Friday, 21 March 2014

Instagram Collective #1

Dearest Internet strangers,

It has been rather a while since I stopped rambling on about myself and just let some photographs do the talking. I tend to use a lot of my photographs from Instagram in my monthly updates but as many of them are fairly poor quality once edited from my phone I have been including fewer and swapping them for a more slick photograph from my big-girl camera. However, as they are a fair reflection of my life and as I do tend to keep my Instagram full of London sights and moments that truly are captured on the go in my commute or just as I walk the streets, I thought they were worthy of a little collage.




How do you fill your Instagram? With polished photographs, pictures of friends from events, full of food, or full of sights that you see on your travels? Is Instagram just another way which we airbrush our lives through social media and indulge in vanity (thinking about doing a little post on this soon) - let me know!

-Antonia

Monday, 17 March 2014

Six Month Review // February - March

It has all been a bit mad recently, and in the midst of everything I realised that this life-changing experience of mine is nearly over. With little over four months to go and with so much more of London to explore and so much more of myself to give and a great God to learn from and equip me, it is all been a little overwhelming. Well, that, and realising that my laptop charger has to be laid to rest (hence, the delay of this post). Once again I turn to the questions I set myself in September with a few additions to see what I am making of it all, and to remind myself of all I should be grateful for. This process has really been amazing in helping me to see how I am growing month on month, seeing my struggles and my burdens, what I enjoy and what I dislike.

Hold tight, there are a lot of pictures this month!

View from Tower Bridge



1) Weirdest thing you have seen in London this month?
When we were en route to Greenwich Park we saw a street performer on a ladder with only his leopard print boxers juggling with knives outside the Cutty Sark. I have pictures (but will show you the one where he is fully clothed!)



2) Particular highlights of this month?
I have already written about my main highlights in these blog posts  where I shadowed a few different things to get a broader experience of my work. As this month I hit the 6 month mark and went past the halfway point in my gap year it was great to try new things and get a fresh perspective.
There has been a vast array of things that I have been enjoying in my spare time this month:
·         Walking in parks. I finally went down the road to Southwark Park and within the last two weekends have seen Greenwich Park at sunset and picnicked in Victoria Park. Walking around in the sun on my own or with others has been such a blessing and has really made me have those moments of stillness which seem to be rare in a busy, chaotic, messy London.  I have been so blessed by my church, going to people’s houses for lunch, taking a walk along Regent’s Canal, meeting for dinner have been amazing chances to have a community of supportive and interested people who are really looking out for me. This year has really made me appreciate the gift of community and friendship and finding that in such a densely populated city where everyone is a stranger has been such a comfort.
·         Actually, on reflection, I’ve had so much time to dedicate to friendship this month and I met up with two friends from school one evening and we walked around for a long, long time catching up and seeing sights. Another evening I went to see The Duck House and had dinner at Nando’s with one of my best buds who kindly visited me when she was on reading week. More of this, please!
·         Going into Shoreditch for a couple of hours and seeing Phlegm’s exhibition ‘The Bestiary’ at the Howard Griffin Gallery. It was pretty mesmerising and I just love the fact that it felt so childlike, yet so grotesque, disturbing and horrific at the same time. It was Street art in a hugely three-dimensional and engaging form and though it was small, it was well worth seeing.
·         Getting lost in Canary Wharf shopping centre with my sister before heading out into Zone 4 to see our cousins and eat pizza.






3) Favourite part of your work this month?


I have really enjoyed seeing how thee cafe is continuing to expand as a community - we started a revamped sewing class a few weeks back and it is bringing a diverse group of people who are really starting to connect and make friends. We also had one of our regulars put up an exhibition of his artwork, from which he has even sold eight pieces. He couldn't be more chuffed and I am so pleased that we can support him through this, almost rewarding his longstanding custom!




4) Least favourite part of your work this month?
I have made a fair few clumsy errors. Think tripping up stairs and smashing a plate on the wall, staining it with turmeric type of drama. It is embarrassing and not exactly what our customers expect of the atmosphere! I was going to have to take on a few extra responsibilities but that didn't happen and I have to say I am pretty relieved about that because I was dreading it to no end.

5) Hardest part of your work this month?
This month (especially the last two weeks) has been hard simply because my energy has been low and I’ve been stuck in a rut of negative thoughts: thinking I have to prove myself, do better, work harder, all so that others can look at me and be impressed. I have always struggled with wanting others to view me and see value and I suppose this is one way that it is expressed. It isn’t intentional but when I sit down and think about why I am disappointed with the day that I’ve had, it’s because I don’t feel like I’ve done enough to be worthy of my place there. It is self-criticism which drives me to despair and is not what my faith teaches me to see about myself. I am to see someone who is useful even when broken and weak, who is valued in the eyes of her Creator in spite of if she works hard, does better, is impressive or valued or loved.


6) Would you kindly sum up your working month in three alliterative words/phrases?
Parks, peanut butter, pals [I was clearly very desperate for a synonym for friends there!]       


Sunset at Greenwich park

Took a spontaneous trip after an afternoon of seminars to walk down the mall and luckily caught the palace just during sunset!

7) Weird habits developed this month?
Before I was going to sleep I kept getting hunger pangs which could not be ignored (to the extent where I would wake up at 5am with my stomach grumbling) so I have been regularly foraging into the kitchen in the small hours to eat peanut butter on top of caramel snack a jacs or crumpets. Actually, eating peanut butter twice a day was a habit I definitely didn’t expect to become a habit at any point in my life once I left childhood. Alas.


8) What are you missing the most about home this month?
I suppose I miss that community which was built for years and the security that it brought. I always knew who to turn to and it feels odd catching up with people through texting or messaging rather than just letting a conversation flow. Luckily, I have made it my ambition to get into more regular contact with my friends this month, AND most are returning from Uni within weeks, or have in the past few days. I also miss simple things, like my mum doing the laundry and making me hot chocolate when I was ill.

9) Best housemate moment?

Spending weekends together having lunch, walking down the Mall, going to the Tower Bridge exhibition, to the cinema, and even to Tesco (a huge supermarket feels like a very exciting quest to me and it is nice just to sit and chat to one person on the bus ride!) I have simply enjoyed sitting around the table having deep discussions and laughing together. Of course, dancing and ‘rapping, in the kitchen features heavily once again.




View from the Tower Bridge exhibition (this is me trying to pick out the more 'arty' photographs than the standard view of the Thames..)
10) Discoveries this month?
Parks (!!! – although hardly a discovery, more a rekindling of my love), crunchy peanut  butter, Genesis Cinema, frozen mango chunks, the beauty of simply making that phone call to one you miss.


Hope you have all had some good moments in your month!

-Antonia

Friday, 7 March 2014

Experiencing Other Worlds // Part Two

I always thought that I was a pretty clued up person. I had a good education and worked hard, I try and keep up with what is going on in the world and enjoy watching debate shows (yep, this 19 year-old really has been living the high life, ahem). Not only has this year challenged me and shaped me and forced me into maturity, but it has shocked me, awakened me and stirred me to do more in my community, in London, and in the world. Being a Webber Street for three days at the end of February was a defining moment for me and a real highlight of my first six months of my gap year simply because it threw me into a world I thought I knew enough about and I came out wondering how on earth I had been so ignorant.

Webber Street (http://webberstreet.org/) is London City Mission's homeless day centre based in Waterloo. Every morning at 9am, around 75-80 homeless men and women (who they lovingly call 'guests') walk through their doors and receive free breakfast and the opportunity to sign up for a shower. The staff are seen busying around until the doors shut at 12pm getting the guests appointments at jobcentres around London, helping sort out travel loans or accommodation and feeding the extra hungry with Pret-A-Manger sandwiches (which are donated every day). Not only that, Webber Street offers genuine care and friendship for those who need it most, and of course, they offer up the opportunity for them to hear the gospel before they tuck into breakfast. Webber Street also has an attached work called Hope Community Homes which can house up to six former rough sleepers, where the staff will support them through getting benefits, jobs, and even helping them on the road to recovery from addiction until they are ready to live life independently. This is a brief overview of all the amazing work it does, but even that is enough to inspire me.

Working there was an absolute pleasure (besides the pungent smell) because the staff so obviously cared about the needs of even the most tricky guest. Many of the guests speak broken English yet there were great attempts to have understanding. Some guests were demanding and forgetful, with staff members making appointments for them which they never turned up to, or complained about the location of, yet my observation was that the staff were forgiving and accommodating and well as being disciplined and firm. On my first day I was shadowing someone, which involved helping to serve breakfast and going through an incredibly long-winded and complicated process to get them an appointment with the exact jobcentre of their choice which was demanded through someone else due to their lack of English. It was a Tuesday, where in the afternoon they show a film for as many guests as want a ticket, which also guarantees them a Pret provided lunch. It was amazing to see the simple power of entertainment and film to brighten so many days. After the day is done, the staff get to work cleaning the centre and kitchen before heading upstairs to the staff room to do admin work, eat lunch and any other jobs such as washing up. I decided to use this time to investigate the clothing store and help sort out bags of new clothes.

Walking into the room I thought I had entered some kind of trendy thrift store - I saw Nike Sweaters ("they'll fight wars for that sweater"), Ted Baker jumpers, Barbour jackets, and more. I also saw some less-than-pleasant sweaty shorts that someone had donated and it was quite literally the worst smell that I have encountered in my entire life and I couldn't stop smelling it all day, even when I went to sleep! Quite amazingly, the place was full to the brim and had a whole section full of bags of donations. I was told that this time last year, they were struggling to get donations. Just a few Saturdays ago, someone felt so moved by the work that Webber Street were doing that they drove to London from Wales to give clothes that their church wanted to donate. Incredible.




On my third day I spent the morning among the clothes as I and another staff member were put in charge of showers. Guests can shower once a week and Webber Street provide 15 showers for men and 5 showers for women per day and when they come for a shower, they can get new clothes to wear as needed. Many just take socks and boxers but others who are in dire need will pretty much get a whole new outfit. Old clothes that are worn or that have been in constant wear and smell bad as a result are put in a rubbish bag and thrown away. It was harder to get to know guests this way as you only see them through a little hatch and spend a lot of time running around trying to find the correct sizes of clothes in the right thickness, colour or style for them (some are surprisingly picky!), but it is rewarding when so many shout a "thank you" through the door as they leave to rejoin the rest of the guests and you know that you are doing them a practical service. My third day also involved a walkabout the area in a very fashionable high-vis jacket (which did make me feel extremely official) just to make sure that the neighbours in the area felt safe and none of our guests were in the kids park.


Obviously, I'm not going to put any pictures up of the main room as I feel like it would breach quite a few privacy laws of the guests and spoil their sense of safety within that place, but it is the place where I spent most of the time. On my second day I was overseeing tea and coffee, making sure it was always full and that guests didn't spill tea and coffee everywhere. It also meant that I could chat to guests as they came up for tea and some are surprisingly open about their past (one told me about their spell in prison with me barely saying a word to them first). But what amazes me is that although you are standing in a room full of people that perhaps have addiction problems, a history of crime or mental health issues, there is no judgement. The fact that guests feel like they can speak of their past doesn't mean that they are proud of it or boasting about it, but they are recognising their need to face up to it. When I watch the staff deal with a guest, they deal with them as every other human, as a friend. Sometimes the homeless are just lumped together in a ball of stereotypes, pre-judged as people walk by, marginalised and made fun of by the middle class comedians. At the heart of things, they are human, with human needs of friendship and love. When one particularly smelly guest sat down, the rest of his table moved away. I continued to watch and it wasn't long before two others came and sat with him, putting up with the smell. Guests sit in tables, mainly according to nationality, but even then you see a human spirit of friendship and care for one another that surpasses labels and past. 

Before breakfast one day, I shared the story of how Jesus freed me from sin, which included a history of anger and violence. I was warned that there would be hecklers, but instead got a few claps and a few guests thanked me for what I said as I served breakfast and tea. The fact that I was perhaps able to give hope of a truly freeing experience through Jesus for one of those 80 people was a thrilling and honouring thing. I was able, later that day, to sit in the afternoon Bible study. It was less popular than the film afternoon by a long shot but there was a great desire within that group and I saw many people enlightened by the story of Jesus casting a legion of demons out of a man. I couldn't help but smile at the thought of all the demons that some of the guests might face being cast out of their lives, transforming their behaviour and leading them to a knowledge of Christ. No guest was a lost cause, and as Christians we should believe that more than anyone because we have a hope in something greater and more powerful than human effort and social action.

Exploring the other worlds or branches of London City Mission was exciting and eye-opening. From theatre stage doors to the hearts of the homeless, from Bible studies with Arabic teachers to a tenancy project with a difference, I saw London in a fuller and brighter way, with a fresh revelation of hope. Yes, my time at Webber Street was eye-opening and I heard facts about homelessness from staff that were shocking, and it has most definitely caused me to do my research, but facts don't ring true until you see the faces and the scars (and smells) of those they speak of. The challenge now is to take a love which sees through the stats and into the hearts of Londoners out with me into my daily work and, in faith, watch it transform that community.

-Antonia